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Accessories Is there something different besides a pillow the ring bearer could carry? Beauty & Hairstyles Any suggestions on how I can have a streak-free wedding day? How do i minimize stress? Tanning bed vs a spray on tan, what's your opinion? Any makeup tips to share so my makeup will look good all day? Bridal Consultants My fiance and I REALLY want to get married in July 2010, but with finances we set our date for July 23rd, 2011. I was wondering what are little things I could do to save the most money I can? I am having a old Hollywood theme wedding with a tight budget. I would like to save money and make wedding favors myself. We plan to get married in mid August, How long before the wedding should we start the fitting process for the wedding party? I am trying to decide if I should choose another venue for the wedding. Currently it is at a friends home in their backyard but there will be about 100 people. What is a Maid of Honor supposed to do? I know they plan the bachelorette party I'm getting married September 26th in Jacksonville FL. I have the ceremony site booked. I'm looking for a place to have my reception. I'm looking for an elegant but not so expensive place. I am getting married May 2009 and I am stuck on my color scheme. I need another color to go with yellow and white, I was thinking lavender. Our wedding is planned for June 20, 2009 and my 28 year old son is going to be giving me away. If I am supplying the groomsmen with their shirts and bridesmaids with their dresses (both very casual and able to wear again) and the bridesmaids with their jewelry. My fiance and I are stationed in WA, but we are both from NH and having our wedding there. I am going to wear a white dress and my groom wants to wear a campaign colored tux. Should you tip any of the vendors at a wedding? If so how much? DJ? Photographer? Limo? Venue? Photo Booth attendant? Officiant? I'm getting married in Las Vegas in '09, and am having a very small wedding with only 10 people attending. Because I live in England, I'm struggling to find a restaurant where we can have a separate room to ourselves to host an intimate dinner for our guest? Well, my wedding isnt until January 2,2010 but I am trying to plan early. We already have a location for the reception and ceremony, but what do I do now? So I want my sister to be my maid of honor, but my best friend...who is very dramatic and upsets very easily...has proclaimed herself my matron of honor and i never disagreed. I just figured oh whatever they can both be it. However, its really not what i Please help! I have a completely uneven number of girls and boys for our wedding. We want to have all of our children included in the wedding, but I have no clue what to have them as. I have three girls (14, 12, and 10) and two boys (7 and 5). I was think For my reception, I would like to create centerpieces myself, and bypass a florist, but my issue is that the caterers will not arrange anything on the tables to help. Should I hire an event coordinator for an hour or two? I'm having an outdoor garden wedding at the edge of a cliff, over looking the ocean. I'd like to walk down the isle to the song "The Adventure" by Angels and Airwaves. Will this song take away from the "peaceful, romantic" theme? I have 3 little girls, ages 10, 8 and 7, to include in the wedding, and only one boy, age 8. I think it would be really awkward to put them all as flower girls having only one ring bearer. What are some of the nice summer colors that I can combine together that will go perfectly together. Is there a certain number of bridesmaids I should have? How should I get my 7 1/2 month old god-daughter down the aisle? Has anyone else tried a themed wedding or know anything about having one? Should I push my wedding date back a few months since I'm having a hard time trying to plan everything in just 10 months? Who in the wedding party do I give gifts to? How do I make sure every detail and aspect to my wedding is going to be taken care of just the way I want it when planning a wedding 5 states away? Bridal Dresses I'm looking for a dress that would be appropriate for an on the beach ceremony. I would like something that has a bit of color in it. My fiancee wants to wear slacks and an "aloha" shirt, so I'm having a hard time finding something that is casual enough to match with him but is still elegant and sexy. I am going to wear a white dress and my groom wants to wear a campaign colored tux. I'm having trouble choosing a theme. Can I dress white linens in a way that won't make them look stark white with an ivory and gold dress? How early is to early to start looking at gowns and is it inappropriate to go and look and try on gowns but not buy one yet How do I get a dirt spot off the front of my wedding dress without making it worse or taking it to get drycleaned? What is the role/responsibility of the Maid of Honor and the Bridesmaid(s)? Any suggestions on how to ask your friends to be your bridesmaids? What length dress should the grandmother of the bride wear? Do the bridesmaid dress colors need to be the same? Is it proper for the mother of the groom to assist the bride to be on gown shopping? What if some of your Bridesmaids live in a different state? I know I want a mantilla veil and not so thick edge but buying something online really freaks me out. Do I have to have bridesmaids? Is it acceptable to wear a dress that isn't floor length to a formal reception? Is it OK for the junior bridesmaid to have a different dress than the other bridesmaids? What colors would go with a Champagne or Ivory wedding dress? How soon do I need to order bridesmaids dresses? What colors are good for our mothers? How do I make my maid of honor stand out? What colors are in for bridesmaid dresses? Bridal Registry My fiance wants to make a list of things we would like or that we need instead of registering at just one or two stores. He thinks that our friends and family will then be able to pick out something unique. How many places can you register for your wedding? What is an appropriate amount to spend on a wedding gift? How many places can we register? Bridal Showers How far in advance should bridal shower invitations go out? I am looking for bridal shower games and need ideas. What do you do for the bridal shower? Are you suppose to invite out-of-town guest to the bridal shower? Cakes & Desserts What can I do when all the cake companies are booked on my wedding date? Do you have any suggestions for a seashell cake? Caterers How many meal options should we have at the reception? How do I figure out how much alcohol to order? Chapels & Clergy Can you have a matron of honor as well as a maid of honor? How should the mother of the bride, stepfather, father of the bride and stepmother be seated at the church and at the reception? Where can I have a small budget wedding that will keep every one happy? How should we have the ceremony if his family speaks English and my family speaks only Spanish? How do we pull off a small ceremony (4 people) and no reception afterwards? What do you think about having a non-traditional wedding party? How should I go about having an uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen when I want it to look good and uniform? Decorations & Rentals I'm having an outdoor evening wedding on private grounds with a pool in July 2009. I'm wondering if anyone has suggestions on the best decor for the pool such as floating candles, maybe candles around the pool? I am planning on having a Christmas wedding and I believe the dress I am going to get is Ivory. I am now stuck on colors for the wedding. I am having a tiffany blue and chocolate brown wedding. My girls will be wearing tiffany blue dresses with brown sashes and my matron will wear brown dress with blue sash. I really like the look of bright pink with the tiffany blue. I am not sure if it goes well with blue/brown though. Any thoughts? My dress is ivory and the bridesmaid dresses are coral. Will it be ok to have white chairs and a white wooden arch? I am confused about the colors for my weddings. .. Any ideas? Does anyone have any ideas for centerpieces or decoration? I'm having a hard time on centerpieces for a Tiffany blue and chocolate wedding. Will lavender and fuschia be a bad color combination for a wedding? Is black a good color to have for a December weddnig? I need help with centerpieces!! I haven't been able to find any that I like in my budget. What colors go with coral? I need help with wedding colors for a May wedding? Can we get away with blue and sunflowers for our wedding colors in Florida for a late September wedding? For an outdoor/evening wedding, what decorations could we do without and what are must haves? What are two nice colors for a January wedding? What are some good winter wedding color combinations? Any suggestions on tent configurations and other "to dos" for outside weddings? Where do I start for planning a themed wedding? What DIY projects are worth doing? Destination Weddings My Family Lives in California and his family lives in Washington, we have never been to Oregon which is in the middle and don't know any area of the state, so would it be unfair to have the wedding in California near my family? This is my second marriage but will be the first time for my fiance. We both reside in Texas and he wants to get married at The Madewood Plantation in Louisiana. I am planning a beach wedding in Ocean Isle Beach, NC but I am having a hard time finding caterers in that area since I am about 4 hours and I dont know the area at all. I am having a Las Vegas wedding with only 6 guests attending. Where is a good place to go?!? I'm planning a quick trip to Las Vegas to get married. Any ideas of any good place to hold a beach wedding in the Los Angeles area that is not too terribly expensive? How can I plan a destination wedding where I can't personally investigate the resorts, wedding sites, and more? Disc Jockeys & DJs If my wedding reception is only 3 hours, should I bother to hire a band or dj? Can people really tell if the wedding party's bouquets and bottoniers are artificial? What are good songs for the bride and best man to dance to? What are some good songs for our first dance? Any good ideas for a non-standard song to start off the reception? How do I choose the right DJ? Favors How do you know what to get the bridesmates for their gifts? What is the most unique wedding favor you have seen? Financial Services What does the groom's family pays for? Do I need wedding insurance? How do I come up with a reasonable budget?

Florists & Flowers My fiance and I have 3 little boys, all under the age of 6 and would like to include all three of them in our wedding ceremony. Our youngest will be the ring bearer, however instead of having a flower girl I want to have our two oldest to act as “flower bearers”. Our color scheme is Chocolate Brown and Tiffany Blue. Would you have any suggestions on the type of flowers we'll be able to use? Our color scheme is Chocolate Brown and Tiffany Blue. Would you have any suggestions on the type of flowers we'll be able to use? Any ideas on centerpieces that don't require flowers? Should i use real or silk flowers for my bouquets? Can anyone give me any suggestions on flowers for bouquets and centerpieces. How far in advance should you see a florist for a consultation? Who all receives corsages and buttoniers? If I have a flower girl must I have a ring bearer? What kind of flowers are good for an April morning wedding? What are some alternatives for not using a flower girl? What color would be complementary for the flowers if my bridesmaids wear black dresses with green sashes? Who in the bridal party do we need to provide flowers for? How do I find out what flowers are in season the month we are getting married? Is it tacky to have fake flowers instead of real ones for your table decoration? What questions should I ask the florist? What are some pretty red flowers? How do I keep the flower girl happy during a long day? Formal Wear & Tuxedos My son is going to give me away, should he coordinate his tuxedo with mine(Ivory & Lavender)? How do I make the groom stand out from the rest of the grooms men and still have them wearing nice suits? What colors will go with a sunflower bouquet and men in kilts? What exactly does a best man do? How soon do I need to get my groom and his groomsmen in for tux measurements? Gifts I am wondering who all involved in the wedding should my fiance and I buy gifts for? How do we word the invitation or the rsvp card so that they will send the gifts to our home address? Honeymoon Vacations When is the best time to confirm honeymoon plans? How do you let your wedding guests know that you have everything you need and would like cash for the honeymoon? Where is a good honeymoon spot in August if we want to do the relax on the beach thing? My fiance and I would like to offer our guests to apply money towards our honeymoon along with the option to purchase something from our registry or give cash. How do we honeymoon near his family and still have alone time? Invitations My fiance and I live in AZ, and are being married in WA to make it easier on my large family to be able to attend the wedding. We are planning on having a second, casual reception for our friends down here. My parents have been divorced since I was a baby and grew up with my grandparents and aunt until middle school. From middle school on I lived with my dad. I'm not very close with my mother, and she most likely will not be at my wedding, but will still get How should I word my invitation for people to dress up? How long before the wedding do I send out save the date announcements? How do we enclose RSVP cards with return postage for invitations being sent to Europe or any other country? Do I need to send a wedding invitation to my attendants? How do you limit the number of people on the RSVP card? How do I make Thank You note writing easier? How soon should the RSVP date be before the actual wedding day? Do we need to send out save the date cards to people invited to only the wedding or the celebration but not both? Do I need to print programs for our wedding? How soon should I order my invites for my wedding? Do I need save the date cards? Jewelers & Rings Do I have to use a band in the ceremony or should I use the engagement ring? What kind of jewelry do I wear with my dress? Do I wear my engagement ring during the wedding? What necklace should I wear during my wedding? Limo & Transportation Do we need to provide a limo for the wedding party? Live Musicians Are you aware of anywhere I can get non-instrumental songs for my ceremony? Photographers When is the best time to take wedding pictures? Reception Locations What are some good ideas to keep your reception interesting? What would be the proper way to invite certain guests to the reception only without being rude? What is the best way to ensure that no children attend our wedding/reception? What is the correct order to have people stand in a receiving line? Who do I invite to the rehearsal dinner? Are toasts necessary for wedding receptions? How do we keep the little ones entertained at our wedding? Videographers What is involved with sharing our wedding over the Internet?